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In life, you will have fallouts with friends and drift apart. It’s normal, and it happens to almost everyone. So what would you do if someone you have drifted apart from sending you an invite to their baby shower? A Reddit user (28F) is currently facing this quandary and is seriously debating not going for the following reason…
The Beginning of the Friendship
The original poster (OP) explains that she first met the friend in question (31F) around five years ago. She says that they quickly became best friends due to shared interests, but they started to drift apart at the beginning of the COVID pandemic.
OP’s friend moved halfway across the country to be back with her family when COVID started to spread, and OP found it difficult to contact her. OP was going through a breakup around this time, and she felt alone, but her so-called best friend didn’t provide her with much support.
A Second Chance
Giving her the benefit of the doubt due to COVID, the pair became closer again when she moved back to OP’s neighborhood. However, it soon became apparent that they no longer shared mutual interests. OP was enjoying the dating game while her friend was pregnant and progressing in her relationship.
OP started to notice that she wasn’t being invited to the same get-togethers that she was being invited to pre-COVID, which understandably hurt her feelings. While they still occasionally hang out, she feels like she is the only one who makes any effort.
The One-Sided Gift Exchange
Last Christmas, the friend reached out to OP to suggest swapping gifts. This wasn’t something that OP was planning on doing but felt obliged to do after the suggestion was made. When OP ended up giving her friend the gift, she never received one in return and still hasn’t to this day.
The Invitation to the Baby Shower
OP has recently received an invite to her friend’s baby shower but doesn’t really want to go due to how she now feels about the friendship. Taking to Reddit, she asked the community whether she was being overly petty or if she was right to be hurt after how her friend had treated her in recent years.
Don’t be Taken for a Fool
The comments section was split in half, with some people believing that she should go to the baby shower and others saying that OP’s friend doesn’t deserve her support. One user who was in the latter camp said:
“I wouldn’t go. It seems like you were invested in the friendship and tried to keep in touch. She moved on and wants to tell you everything in her life but doesn’t ask about you or your life. Don’t go. The only thing she will miss is your gift, not you.”
Will She Regret it?
However, others were keen to ensure that OP didn’t do anything that she might later regret. After all, they were best friends for many years. One user said:
“Sometimes the friendship catches up years later. Going to the shower is a nice gesture of goodwill that shows respect and fondness, even if the friendship isn’t at its strongest point now. And maybe it’ll fade out anyway. I would still go.”
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