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A woman recently took to Reddit and asked other women, “What is your it’s time to move on criteria while dating someone?” She clarified what she meant when dating and not in a committed relationship. Here are the top-voted responses.
1. When They Appear Less Crazy About You
“If I ever at any point have the thought, ‘they don’t seem as crazy about me as I am about them. In my experience, a man genuinely interested in a relationship will make that very apparent,” confessed one.
Many firmly believe in the saying, “If he’s interested, you will know. If he’s not, you’ll be confused.” One added, “So if I start to feel like I am a chore, or if he doesn’t have time if there is a massive drop in communication, effort, affection, I know it’s time to move on. It also works both ways.”
3. No First-Date Spark
“Honestly, now it’s just if there’s no spark on the first date. I used to give it a few dates to see if something developed, but now I stop there if there’s nothing after the first.
Dating is exhausting enough without trying to force something. From my experience, if it’s not there to start with, it won’t be there after two or three dates either,” answered another.
4. Opening Notes App
One noted, “The second I’m in my notes app.” Several people in the thread agreed, while others needed clarity. Another explained, “It means when I open my notes app to write down ANYTHING about that relationship.
Whether drafting a text message or a list of pros and cons about dating that person, usually when it gets to that point, it’s already a bad situation.”
5. When Needs Aren’t Being Met
“If my needs aren’t being met and they have no interest or intention of trying to meet them,” one volunteered.
But, another asked, “If they change quite a lot about themselves to meet your needs and expectations (career motivation/direction, getting serious about life, letting go of family baggage) very quickly after meeting you, would you consider this a red flag?”
“Yeah, that’s not good,” one responded. “A person like that is someone that doesn’t live for themselves, stick to their beliefs or take the initiative in life. They don’t have an identity of their own.
They see themselves through other people. But, on the other hand, someone who can’t accommodate others is also a red flag. Like everything else in life, it’s about balance.”
6. Sexist Perspective
One suggested, “If they say or do something sexist and aren’t open to seeing a woman’s perspective on it.” A second added, “Yes! It’s OK to be accidentally ignorant.
But at least be open to a different perspective on things. You can’t know what you don’t know. I call that ‘blissful ignorance.’ But when you should know better and refuse to, that’s willful ignorance, and that’s a big problem.”
7. No Good Luck
“When they know and talk with you about something important (job interview, exam, surgery, etc.) and don’t text you to say good luck or even acknowledge it. Bye. More deal breakers exist, but this one was a clear indication for me,” admitted another.
8. Can’t Communicate Feelings Calmly
“It will sound obvious, but if I cannot communicate with them calmly about things that hurt me or I don’t feel comfortable around, it’s time to move on,” reported another.
9. Words Don’t Match Actions
“If his words don’t match up with his actions. Once it becomes apparent that he’s just telling you what he thinks you want to hear without any intention of following through, it’s time to bail out,” one suggested.
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10. If Being With Him Is Harder Than Being Without Him
“If being with him is harder than being without him,” one suggested. Finally, another added, “When I can’t wait for them to leave or for the date to be over and when their text notifications make me feel annoyed rather than excited.”
We hope you enjoyed this Reddit discussion about dating criteria women deem means it is time to move on. This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Motherhood Life Balance.
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