Being a mother is hard. It’s the most amazing yet difficult job you will ever have. The rewards far exceed the hardship but motherhood is hard. The tricky part is that nothing can prepare you for being a mom. It isn’t until you are a mom that you see how it feels.
How Do you Deal with Feeling Overwhelmed as a Mom?
This post is to give you some tips on how to calm the overwhelm in motherhood. As a mom of three, I understand feeling overwhelmed and these 7 steps helped me tremendously.
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Why do Moms Feel Overwhelmed?
First of all, being a mom is a lot. We care so deeply and are always thinking about our children’s needs before our own and we want to be the best for them. That is a lot on its own.
Then I think a lot of it could also stem from mothers feeling like they have to do it all in order to be a “good mom” or it’s because we are comparing ourselves to other people, whether that’s in real life or on social media what we see affects our world and sometimes gets us caught up in feeling like we’re not good enough.
This is not the case at all. We don’t have to do it all and we don’t have to be the best. We are already the best for our kids. We are the mothers they need.
We all have it! We feel bad that we didn’t do something for them, or enough of something for our children. We are constantly feeling like we didn’t do enough. Mom guilt is so real! How many days a week do we feel mom guilt? I’m sure way more times that we need to feel it. Why do we put so much pressure on ourselves?
Mom guilt is something we all suffer from time and time again. It doesn’t matter if you’re a stay-at-home mom or if you’re a working mom. We all get it.
We need to try to let this feeling of mom guilt go. We are not perfect and we don’t need to be. We are already the perfect mother for our children.
Let’s try to change our mindset anytime we feel the dreaded mom guilt. You are enough, your kids will be ok. If you really need to make up for whatever it is that is giving you mom guilt try to schedule it into your daily plan based on priority.
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7 Steps to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed as a Mom
Ok let’s get to it, here are the 7 steps to help you stop feeling overwhelmed as a mom.
Know that This Stage Will Pass
There are plenty of stages in life that are hard but we need to remember and accept that they do end. This stage will pass, it does not last forever even though somedays it might feel that way. Take a breath and remember this stage is temporary and you will get through it.
Review Your To-Do List and Prioritize It
Keeping a daily to-do list can be a big help. Make sure you have a good system for planning out your daily life and remember to prioritize your to-do list based on priority. Have a weekly plan and a daily plan so you can fit in what needs to be done and prioritize your daily to-do list accordingly.
I have a great family template bundle that is perfect for adding your kids’ activities and classes to it at the beginning of the week and what’s for dinner. It is a huge help so everyone in the family can be on the same page. Included is a chore chart, reward chart, project planner, weekly planner and so much more.
Schedule Some Time for Yourself
Self-care is important and you need to schedule it for yourself. Even if you have to wait until you’ve put the kids to bed be sure you’re taking some time for yourself each and every day. You cannot show up as the best version of ourself if you’re struggling and not taking care of yourself.
Ask for Help
This is a hard one for some moms but it’s ok to ask for help. Tell your partner what you need, call a friend or call a relative and ask for help. I’m going to tell you this again. It’s ok to ask for help and you should as for help. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. It takes a village to raise a child sometimes, so make sure you’re asking your people for help.
Work on Your Mindset
This is so important. If you are constantly thinking about the struggle and filling your mind with thoughts of despair, sadness, etc you are doing yourself no good. I know it can be hard to switch our thoughts but they are so important and can change your life.
Try your best to think about something positive anytime you find yourself thinking negatively. It will change your life.
If you’re just starting out and need more guidance start by writing down or thinking of 5 things you’re grateful for each day. Then at the end of the day think about what you were grateful for that day. This will help you start to train your mind to be grateful.
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Move Your Body
You will always feel better after you move your body. It’s just that simple. It might not be easy to actually get started but once you do you will be glad you did. Try to move your body for 30 minutes each day. That’s all you need. Go out and get some fresh air, go for a walk. Anything that gets you moving for 30 minutes will do wonders for you.
Anytime you’re feeling stressed get outside. Get your feet on the ground, take a few deep breaths and enjoy nature. Get away from loads of laundry and change your scenery. Get outside and take the kiddos with you! Sometimes some fresh air and a change of scenery will do wonders for everyone.
What are Some Mom Burnout Symptoms?
Symptoms of mom burnout could vary from mom to mom but some of the most common symptoms are that you feel tired all the time, you’re unhappy, and feel sad a lot. You feel like you have so much to do and don’t know where to start. You will withdrawal from friends and family. You don’t feel happy or excited to start the day and you can’t remember the last time you had a good day.
I highly encourage you to try my 3-day mindset and productivity reset, it will help you create a routine that you can handle and help you train your mind to help you see the happiness that is all around you right now.
Please remember if you feel sad and you cannot seem to feel better speak to your doctor.
Why is Being a Mom so Stressful?
Well, we have a lot on our plates. It feels like we spend ½ year doing laundry, we’re always grabbing snacks because the kids only know how to ask us for a snack for some reason. It’s a big responsibility to keep our tiny humans alive and happy.
Like I mentioned earlier in this post we do have to make sure that we aren’t comparing ourselves to other moms. What you think you see is probably not what is actually happening. We all have our struggles and our own motherhood journey.
We tend to put a lot on our plates and we constantly want or feel the need to do it all. We need to ask for help when we need it and be clear and open with our partners when we need help.
How Do New Moms Stop Feeling Overwhelmed?
Being a new mom is hard. It’s so new and we are filled with so many different emotions. Remember to give yourself lots of grace, know that these feelings are normal. As a new mom, you are dealing with a lot of hormones, feelings of love, joy, sadness, pain. It varies so much and is a lot to deal with.
This phase will pass, your feelings will level out and you will start to feel better.
Talk to a doctor to get some help if these feelings are too much. It’s ok to seek help and it’s ok to ask for help.
You are not alone and what you are feeling is totally normal. Remember to take the steps above to help you feel better.
Powerful Steps to Stop Feeling Overwhelmed as a Mom
Remember that feeling overwhelmed is normal. We all experience it. You are not alone. Remember to work on your mindset, ( this is critical ) get outside, move your body, ask for help and give yourself grace. You are doing great mama.