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Women, what things do men do that frighten you without them even realizing it? I’ll go first! Back up when I’m at the ATM. You’re a man, so by default are usually bigger than me, and I’m withdrawing or depositing cash.
If I turn around and look at you, I’m uncomfortable and need you to step back. After polling the internet, here are ten top-voted things women admitted scare them that men may not even realize when they do.
1. When Men Joke About Safety
“One time, I was closing up shop, and I didn’t realize a customer was still in the store (I was a new manager). So when he walked up to the register while I was taking out the till, he said, ‘Wouldn’t it be funny if I just robbed you right now?’ and laughed.”
“I was so shocked and scared I just looked at my cashier. We laughed nervously and politely asked him to leave, which he did. We freaked out after we locked to door behind him,” one confessed.
2. When Men Take Us On Isolated Dates
Another woman explained, “This guy I’m seeing took me to a baseball game for our first date. It was nice. I didn’t get any weird vibes from him. After the game, he asked if I wanted to see some of the spots he likes walking.”
“I didn’t think much about it until we got there, and I realized he was taking me to the woods in the dark. He told me to follow him, and I thought I was about to be killed. Still, it turns out he just wanted to show me his favorite place to go on walks and chill because you can see the entire city from there, and at night it looks beautiful.”
“He took me to a couple more trails that night, and I ended up having a great time and completely forgot that it was pitch black outside and I was with a stranger. I thought I was going to die that night.”
3. When Men Can’t Take No For an Answer
“My friend and I had a man start to talk to us in a park and ask to take us out on his boat. I told him straight, that’s how women go missing, thanks, but no thanks,” one stated.
“He started making disgusting crude remarks toward us. Does this work for someone? Her boyfriend was picking us up, and we were lucky he showed up shortly after because we couldn’t shake him.”
4. When Men Stand Too Close
“The worst is when men stand too close. Some men need to learn about personal space at grocery stores or restaurants. How do you know if it’s too close? I’ll back up half a step, DON’T match it,” another informed.
5. When Men Get Your Number From a “Friend.”
“When men decide to get your phone number from one of their friends and expect you to reciprocate their energy immediately. You’re a stranger who got my number without my consent. I can’t be the only one weirded out by that,” suggested another. “We’re looking for green flags, not bright red ones!”
6. When Men Make Uncomfortable Jokes
One person shared, “One of my co-workers – a lovely but very awkward 50-year-old man said to me as he came into work something completely inappropriate.”
“I blinked and paused for a minute before he tried to play it off as something else. But he insinuated something nasty and inappropriate. Those jokes are never funny. People make those jokes to shoot their shot, and my response shut it down. It’s pathetic and scary.”
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7. When Men Physically Force Affection
“Years ago, I went out with this man, and during snacks and a drink, it was pretty clear we weren’t a good match,” began one. “So I politely turned down another round and thanked him. Then, I grabbed my bag and walked to the bar to pay.”
“Not more than two steps from the table, the man YANKS my purse strap and says, ‘What, no hug?’ Taken aback, I hugged him and shuffled quickly to pay and get out of there. One of the worst dates of all time.”
8. When Strangers Invite Us to Parties
“I had a guy ask me to go to a party on his boat, but it wasn’t a pressure situation. I didn’t know him. We were both at the same restaurant, and he came over and asked me as he and his friends were leaving,” one noted.
“We didn’t even know each other’s names. Like, I know nothing about you, and I’m going to go on a boat with you at night (I assume)? But again, no pressure–I was like, ‘Uh, no?’ And he walked off. It was weird.”
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9. When Men Write Down Our License Plate Numbers
“As I was paying for my meal, I explained to the waitress, whom I knew from another job, that the man I was on a date with was super creepy and asked if I could sneak down the back stairs. She let me go through, and I rushed down the backstairs and outside to my car,” one explained.
“Breathing a deep sigh, I got out of the parking lot, and at the first red light at the corner where the restaurant was the same creepy man crossing the street. Without any hint of emotion, he whipped out a pen and wrote my license plate down on his hand. Never saw him again, that I know of.”
10. When Men Assert Dominance On Your Dog!
“This reminds me of my friend’s experience. She took her dog to the park and let him off the leash (no other dogs were there). Then, a guy (with no dog) randomly enters the park and approaches my friend,” one stated.
“My friend tried getting her dog’s leash back on when he grabbed the dog by the collar. First red flag, get your hands off of my dog! Next, he says Hi to her and makes small talk before asking for her number. She told him no and that she had a boyfriend, and he said ok and left.”
“The next day, though, she gets a text from an unknown number. This guy had looked at her dog’s leash and somehow remembered her number from the tag.”
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“Unfortunately, her home address is also on the dog tag, so her boyfriend upgraded their security heavily. She never answered the guy, and he eventually stopped trying, but what?”
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