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What do you do when you feel like someone is taking advantage of you? You love your routine and peace but feel like it’s too much and your partner is not putting in any effort?
Here’s a story of a man who is experiencing this exact thing. What would you do? What should he do?
The Man, The Myth, The Maid
The original poster (OP) explains that once he and his girlfriend moved in together, he discovered that she was “super lazy.” She wakes up at 12 p.m. and doesn’t go to bed until 3 a.m.
OP says he is the one who ends up making breakfast, lunch, and dinner. He says he’s the one who cleans the house once a week and that anytime he asks her for help, she says “later” and never gets around to it.
OP says that when he gets burnt out and doesn’t feel like cooking, she will order food for them, which makes him feel guilty. His girlfriend says she is “sad” and that she is “exhausted with life.” When they have discussions about her laziness, she ends up getting irritated and not doing anything for the rest of the day.
She wants them to get a house together but isn’t putting any effort into searching for one. She likes to video chat with her family and wants him to participate, but he is usually too burnt out to. When he tells her he doesn’t feel like talking to them, she won’t talk to him for the entire day.
He’s Losing Himself
OP said that his girlfriend forced him to block all of his female friends. All of his school friends think he’s ignoring them. OP also said that he likes to have a routine, such as workouts and proper meals. He says that these days he only eats around one meal a day.
OP feels like he’s a housemaid and feels broken. He doesn’t want to break up with his girlfriend and hurt her, but he doesn’t know what to do.
The People Weigh In
Here are some of the reactions that this post got on Reddit:
“She shows signs of emotionally abusing you. You seem to care a lot about someone who doesn’t give a sh** about you and doesn’t respect you. This will not get better, you are just prolonging your own unhappiness by staying with her.’
Another said, “Why are you acting like it’s your job to be with this person? If you’re unhappy, putting in 100% of the effort and getting nothing back, change your situation.”
“This is all 100% in your control. You’re not stuck with this person. You thankfully haven’t yet bought a house together, there’s no mention of kids. Leave! Do it now. You’ve been unhappy for years it sounds like. Why put yourself through this?”
“The relationship is one-sided. That’s not good.”
“Being unhappy is reason enough to leave”
People on Reddit think it’s time to leave.
Is OP’s girlfriend using him? Is he right to be feeling as burnt out and broken as he does? What would you do in this situation?
This article was produced and syndicated by Motherhood Life Balance.
This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Motherhood Life Balance.
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