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Mixing Business with Family: Sister DECLINES to Bake Unpaid Wedding Cake. Is She Wrong for Not Making Her Brother and Fiancée’s Wedding Cake?

ByVictoria Cornell November 22, 2023
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She was asked to make her brother’s wedding cake for almost 100 people, and she was happy to do it but she needed to be paid upfront for supplies. Everyone agreed, but the money never showed up. She’s now being accused or ruining their wedding.

A Reddit user shared her story of refusing to make a wedding cake for her brother and his fiancee after they refused to pay her for her services.

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The original poster (OP) explains that baking is something she does as a hobby in her free time. She has an Instagram account where she shows off her work. She bakes cakes for family and friends and for special occasions. She said she never charges for the cakes but always receives some form of compensation in return.

OP said that her younger brother and his fiancee asked her a few months in advance to make their wedding cake. Their cake would be her biggest order yet, as they wanted a three-layer strawberry shortcake cake. OP said she hesitated at first but agreed under the condition that she would be compensated for it.

She explained that she could not do it for free because of the cost of the materials and labor. She gave what she believed to be a fair price, and they agreed. OP clarified that she wanted to be paid before the wedding. She gave them multiple sketches of the cake and even made a practice batch that they could sample.

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They approved everything, but six days before the wedding, OP hadn’t received her payment. She reached out to her brother so she could start shopping for ingredients, and he assured her he would drop off the check the next day. The next day, her brother never dropped it off, so OP attempted to contact him again.

The next day came, and still no check. OP offered to pick it up from their house, but her brother and his fiancee said that wouldn’t work for their schedules. The day before the wedding, OP contacted them, asking again. OP said they “blew up” and called her selfish for charging them when she doesn’t charge the rest of the family, and they refused to pay.

They still demanded that she make the cake, but she said no and that she had made her terms clear at the beginning. They continued to call her selfish and said she’d “better make” the cake. OP stood her ground. She did not attend the wedding, and because she didn’t make the cake, her brother, his fiancee, and her family are blowing up her phone and leaving nasty messages.

Here’s What Others Thought:

Here are what some had to say on the Reddit thread:

“They knew exactly what they were doing. For anyone who is giving you a hard time about it, tell them, “You’re certainly welcome to make a free wedding cake for them!”‘

Another commented, “I imagine the cost just of the ingredients is reasonably high for that size of cake.”

“NTA. And for a 25YO woman, you have a remarkably good ability to set and enforce a boundary and not be guilted into doing things.

I think many people in your situation would have made the cake out of a sense of guilt and then just been resentful afterward for being out all the time and money. Then they’d be posting here wondering if they’re the AH for being mad and asking for the money over and over after the fact.

Your way or the other way, people would be mad. Because they’re entitled users. You shut it down on the front end. Well done!”

Was OP right to refuse her service because she would not be compensated? Should she have done it for free as she did for the rest of her family members? How would you have reacted in this situation?

This article was produced and syndicated by Motherhood Life Balance. This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Motherhood Life Balance.

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