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Sometimes in life, we learn lessons after the fact. We grow from them, and then we receive the gift of hindsight and wisdom.
Often times when we’re going through the toughest tests, we don’t see the outcome or the lesson because we tend to believe that the worst will not be over.
These lessons or hard pills to swallow don’t fully develop until we’ve made it to the other side and we can look back and see the growth that has happened during these difficult times.
Recently on Reddit, a user came to the r/AskReddit thread to ask, “what are the hardest pills to swallow in life?” We found some really profound posts that we compiled to share.
One user said, “Some bells can’t be unrung. And you have to live with the fallout from decisions you made and things you did when you didn’t know this fact.”
To which another user replied, “I’ve often told my daughter this. Once something is broken, it’s never the same. Every decision has a cost, consequence, and outcome… Although I don’t state it so bluntly, as I don’t want her to develop crippling anxiety.”
A third Redditor added, “Basically, you’re writing your story in real time by how you live.”
Another Redditor said, “Life gives you the test first, then the lesson.”
A user also said, “Don’t forget that the only person who is gonna help you learn that lesson is yourself. Others might come along and help, but in the end the lesson is up to you. You won’t know you got it wrong until you fail the test again too.”
Another user chimed in with, “Not everything will happen according to your plan.”
This user shared some positivity, “The beautiful thing about plans changing is they can lead you to wonderous places you never expected to be, with people you never expected to meet. Every journey has its final day. Don’t rush. Stop and smell the roses. Take a walk once in a while. Order some nice food. You deserve it.”
A user also shared this hard look, “Sometimes when bad things happen to you it’s your own fault.”
Friendships & Relationships
One Redditor commented, “Some relationships or friendships are meant to be temporary. Appreciate the memories and lessons they give you, but when the time comes you have to let go and move on”
Another user responded, “also, not everyone can be the kind of friend you need them to be. I’ve learned to better set expectations of what others are able to give me. Don’t feel shocked and saddened when your party friend isn’t emotionally available when you’re going through a breakup. Different people fill different needs.” (Generally speaking, expectations are disappointments in the making)
Another user reiterated, “Nobody is obligated to be in your life. Years of commitment and love can go up in smoke because someone decided they were done with you.”
To which another user shared their experience, “Yep. Spent 10 years loving and adoring my partner and they up and left out of the blue about 6 months ago. I can’t make them stay, and I can’t make them put into words why exactly they left because I don’t think I’ll ever understand.”
Another user shared this, “Sometimes communication won’t work as we wanted it too. “
Another Redditor said, “If you want a great life, great friends and experiences, you have to seek them out for yourself, and nurture them. They aren’t randomly assigned to you, and no one else will take care of it but you.”
Another Redditor said, “Accepting the fact that the person you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with might not be the one.”
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One user added, “Bad people win frequently. Some people in leadership positions are not good leaders. Some who are not in leadership are good leaders. People will take advantage of your hard work. Many people get to where they are because of nepotism.”
Another user responded with, “The reward for hard work is harder work. The sooner you learn this, the better.”
This Redditor shared, “Hard work ≠ success sometimes. Ouch.”
Another Redditor shared, “Hard work does not guarantee a comfortable life.”
A user shared this, “You’re not THE one at your job. You’re just another number that will be replaced as soon as you quit.”
Finally, a Redditor shared, “Having a degree does not guarantee you anything, aside from student loans lol. I really used to think “good degree=good job.”
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As a full-time working mom of three, I know what it’s like to feel like life is out of balance and out of control.
While I don’t have it all figured out, I am committed to sharing helpful tips and tricks with other mommas who are ready to break free from negativity, ditch mom guilt, & finally, live life on their own terms.