Secrets, Lies, and Manipulation: She Told Her Kids to Tell Her Dad The Nanny Was Evil So She’d Get Fired
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Recently, a man we’ll call Nick shared that he was in a volatile situation. He explained that he and his wife are in their thirties with three children. Nick used to work from home but took a significant pay increase that involved him going to the office.
They agreed to hire a part-time nanny, and Nick contacted a nanny agency. They matched the family with a nanny he called Sarah for the story’s sake.
Nick stated that he spoke with Sarah on the phone, she was pleasant, and he arranged a day for her to meet the family and show her their home. However, when the day came, his wife already knew Sarah, and the feeling was awkward.
He was unaware, until afterward, how they knew each other. Unfortunately, his wife’s high school boyfriend cheated on her with Sarah. Nick noted that she was not overly enthusiastic about the situation. Still, she didn’t take issue with her being their nanny.
Two Weeks Later
Their kids love Sarah. She’s available whenever needed and has lots of experience in her field. So after two weeks without issue, two children suddenly expressed they didn’t want Sarah ever to return. When he asked why, they replied, “Sarah is evil.”
Nick elaborated that their six-year-old started crying and said that Sarah was “mean and wants to hurt mommy.” So he privately confronted his wife, who outright denied any involvement or knowledge about the situation.
She alleged Sarah must have done something to garner that reaction. However, after a bit more probing, she confessed to telling the kids to say to him that Sarah was evil so that he would fire her. Finally, she decided the history was uncomfortable and asked Nick to fire her.
When he confronted her about why it wasn’t a problem before, she expressed needing to think about the situation and determined she wanted Sarah gone. Nick suggested they could find another nanny, but he didn’t believe in firing Sarah.
Additionally, he believed she was out of line for weaponizing the children against Sarah when she was no danger to them. His wife disagreed, insisted he fires her immediately and suggested a temporary babysitter until finding a new nanny.
She denied weaponizing the kids and suggested she was only “setting boundaries.” It evolved into a heated argument that resulted in him accusing his wife of being immature, insecure, and controlling. He elaborated she needed to go to therapy.
Finally, his wife said he’s inconsiderate of her feelings and needs to put himself in her shoes. It was one of their biggest arguments, and Nick wanted a neutral opinion on whether he was wrong. Here is how the internet responded.
Her Behavior Disturbs Me
One admitted – “Her behavior disturbs me. I can’t imagine causing my children to fear for their safety or their mother’s safety because of my insecurities from high school. I mean, the manipulation and abusive behavior is disturbing.
If the truth is not corrected for those kids, they could believe daddy hired an evil person to get rid of mommy. I also think firing Sarah because of the wife’s behavior and issues could lead to legal ramifications, slander, and wrongful termination.”
You’re Controlling and Need Therapy
Another stated, “She shouldn’t have used the children like that. Ask yourself why she felt the need to, though. There is plenty of reason to let the nanny go. I wouldn’t let someone so negatively connected to my past around my children.
You didn’t listen to her initially when she told you about it, and now you accuse her of being insecure? No, duh, she’s insecure.
You’re keeping someone around her and her children she doesn’t like. You called her controlling? Wow, if anyone is controlling here, it’s you, buddy. Get some therapy yourself.”
She Should Have Just Said No
Finally, someone believed, “She should have just said NO to begin with, but instead, she told him it was fine. Then she changes her mind and, instead of communicating, lies and traumatizes the kids for her own agenda.”
What do you think? Was this Redditor wrong? Was the wife wrong? Were they both wrong? Let us know in the comments. This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Motherhood Life Balance. More from Motherhood Life Balance:
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