Dad Has FOMO! Dad Wants To Be With His Kids On Their First Trip To Disney…So They Might Miss Out Going With Their Grandparents

A Reddit user shared a story about telling his wife that her parents can not take their 5 & 6 year children to Disney because he doesn’t want their daughter’s first Disney experience to be without him and his wife.

Disney Trip

The original poster (OP) turned to Reddit to ask if he was being unfair by saying no about his mother and father-in-law (FIL) taking his two children to Disney without them (OP and wife).

OP started off by saying he and his wife have had several discussions about taking their children to Disney, and they want to do it as their big family trip. He went on to say that his wife had never been, and he had only been once when he was 10, but he remembers what a memorable trip it was. 

OP went on to say that this past summer, his FIL was diagnosed with prostate cancer. FIL decided not to pursue chemo, and the cancer is progressing. OP’s father and mother-in-law have decided to try and make as many lasting memories with family as possible before FIL’s final days. One of these memories they’d like to make is to take their grandchildren (OP’s children) to Disney in February.

OP was under the impression that his wife would be against such a trip for their children’s first Disney experience because they had talked about going as a family, but she (OP’s wife) had already agreed to let her parents take the kids. 

The Fight 

The trip to Disney was given to the children as a Christmas gift without OP knowing. When OP and his wife got home, they had a serious discussion, and he did not want the children to go. OP’s wife says he is heartless and selfish and is robbing their children of a core memory with her parents before her father passes.

What Redditors Think

The Reddiors were quick to form opinions about this magical trip.

One user wrote, “​​YTA. Your wife is right. I understand your disappointment in not being the first to take your kids to Disney, but these are special circumstances. Their grandfather/your wife’s father is dying and wants to create memories with his grandchildren that will last once he is gone.

It’s small minded and selfish to take that opportunity away from him and your children just so you can be the first to have the experience with them. Do you think if you do this, your wife and daughters won’t resent you for what you are taking away from them to satisfy your own selfish need?

If you do this, remember someday your daughters will be adults and think about how they will look back on this and what they will think about you.”

Another Redditor wrote, “The only reason OP would be obsessed with declining is that he wants to be the only hero in their story. It’s an immature approach to raising kids to be adults with healthy relationships and full lives – and I don’t think that’s an overreaction, considering OP is prioritizing his ego and this weird sense of being ‘first’ over a literal life or death situation.”

A third Redditor pointed out, “OP said for just the two, it would be $5000 and that they can’t afford it. Though it seems like the wife’s parents were planning it well in advice if they got her approval way beforehand. The least they could have done was talk to both parents and be like, “we want to surprise the girls with this trip. Would you be okay with us taking them or would you like to come too?”

That way, if the parents can’t afford op and his wife as well, they can at least give them the heads up to plan and prepare. Also, it’s messed up that the wife didn’t talk to her husband. She knows this was their plan. She knew how much it meant to him. Yes, it’s selfish, and he is the AH if he stops it. But the wife is also a big AH for not telling him a month in advance when she found out.

How would you feel if, for the past 6 years, your dream has been this one thing? Your wife knows and acts like she shares this dream with you. But then she finds out something will come and disrupt your dream, and she doesn’t even think to give you a heads up?

It really just feels like all the adults are just being selfish and only thinking of themselves.”

What is your opinion should the dad let the kids go?

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