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When you meet a new boyfriend/girlfriend and take them home to meet your family for the first time, the dream scenario is that everyone gets along and there is no awkwardness.
At the very least, you like to think that your parents will be accommodating to your new partner. For a user on Reddit (19M), this scenario has played out more like a nightmare than a dream. Let’s find out why…
An awkward situation that’s difficult to get out of
The original poster (OP) explains that he has been with his girlfriend (19F) now for around nine months, but her relationship with his two parents is far from ideal. He says that every time she goes around to his house, there is some kind of awkwardness in the air.
OP explains that this largely stems from the fact that his parents have gotten into the habit of making sly comments toward his girlfriend. These comments are sometimes about her size or weight, while on other occasions, they are about the fact that his girlfriend openly suffers from mental health problems.
If that wasn’t bad enough, they also often make comments and innuendos about the pair’s sexual relationship which makes both of them feel incredibly uncomfortable. OP thinks that his girlfriend is stunning and has made every effort to be friendly with his parents.
OP says that he wants his home to be a safe space for his girlfriend, particularly as she suffers from anxiety. Unfortunately, for reasons he doesn’t understand, his parents seem set on making her life difficult whenever she is around.
He took to Reddit for suggestions on how to bring the issue up with his parents. He is set on talking to them about it but is looking for advice on how to word things.
Words of advice in the comments
OP got his wish, with hundreds of people flocking to the comments section on his post to share their thoughts on the situation. While everyone agreed that he had to say something to his parents, there were opposing thoughts on how firm he should be with his parents.
One user suggested that he should bring it up straight after they next make one of these comments. They said:
“Say to your parents: “That was an unkind thing to say.” Then say to your partner: “Let’s go for a walk (or anything away from them).” Then leave and let them think about what they’ve said. Shut the conversation down every time they do this.”
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Other people suggested that he needed to be more direct and stern with his parents to fully get the message across. One person said:
“They don’t respect you or her. It’s as simple as that. If they won’t give that respect freely, you’ll have to demand it. There’s no other way. This situation sucks, but if you don’t address it head on then it won’t change on its own.”
How would you react if your parents were like this with your significant other? Should OP have addressed the situation a lot earlier on? Let us know your thoughts on the situation in the comments.
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