14 Reasons Marriages Ended Before the One Year Mark

There is a part in the wedding vows that say “till death do us part,” although that is the case for some couples. Many do not make it that far. Some make it many years until they realize they are no longer compatible, some only a couple of years, and some only a couple of months or even just days. If your marriage lasted less than a year, what went wrong?

Politics

One person wrote, “I went to school with a girl who got married in July 2016 after 3 months of dating a guy. They got divorced in November 2016, after the presidential election. Turns out one of them was an extreme Conservative and the other was an extreme Liberal, and this was not discovered until then.”

Another person added, “I hate this idea too. The conversation should be natural, and politics is heavy at times, but if someone can’t handle a serious discussion over intelligent topics, don’t be shocked to find out months later that they disagree with you!”

Drinking and Drugs

A Redditor replied, “husband stopped drinking for a year before marriage, then started drinking the DAY we got married and didn’t stop.”

A second Redditor responded, “We were heroin addicts. I got clean. He then did too. But I couldn’t disassociate him from using. I will always love him and care about him, but I truly believe if we stayed together, we would have died.”

Cheating

Another comment was, “My marriage lasted just over a year, although we had dated for 7 years before getting married and lived together or 3 years. It ended when I found out she was cheating on me with someone she worked with. While she was the one that ultimately made the most painful choices that led to the dissolution of our marriage, I wouldn’t be being honest with myself if I didn’t point out the ways that I contributed to it.”

Depression

A user replied, “Got married a year later. 7 months after that, he started withdrawing and acting depressed, so I tried to get him to talk about what he was feeling. He said he couldn’t stand to be around me and hated me – then moved out two weeks later and divorced 6 weeks after that. I still wonder what happened. We haven’t spoken since he called to confirm he didn’t want to do counseling and just wanted a divorce instead.”

A second user responded, “A lot of relationships with depression end with the spouse not being able to support the depressed individual, and compounding the issue. The fact that you tried and HE didn’t makes you a superhero in my book.”

Child Support

One Redditor wrote, “The day after the wedding, a sheriff showed up on our doorstep with child support papers for a 3 month old baby. Turns out he had been sleeping with his coworker. I was willing to look past the indiscretion, but when he refused to take responsibility for his child, I couldn’t handle it anymore. The kid shouldn’t have to suffer because his dad is an idiot. Divorce was final 11 months after our wedding day.”

Stress

A comment was, “They were both 19, she got pregnant, they got married and tried to make their life work on one $8/hr income, with her as a stay-at-home mom with no money, no car, and no friends in the same place in life she was. Day in and day out, stress drove them apart.”

Awful Accidents

One sad comment read, “I was in the military, and we had been together for 6 years and were both 22 years old. She came to my duty station, and we got married on a Saturday, the weekend of my birthday. She flew back to my home state that Sunday and was killed by a drunk driver.”

Another said comment read, “The marriage wasn’t the best from the beginning. While in transit with friends to spend Christmas at my parents, my sister’s ex hit a patch of black ice and rolled their car at 55mph. His best friend wasn’t buckled in and was thrown through the sunroof and killed. Her ex-husband spiraled into depression and ended the marriage 8 months in. Lots of things happened that led to the split, but this was the one tragic incident to really push divorce into motion.”

Mental and Physical Health

One Redditor responded, “My mom’s first marriage ended after 7 months because it turned out her ex-husband had schizophrenia and refused to take his medications.”

A second Redditor added, “Dated for a few years and decided to move in together with her roommates. The same year we did that, she gets diagnosed with ovarian cancer, which is why I am very angry at the sexist attitudes doctors have when it comes to women. If they had allowed her to get her tubes tied like she wanted years ago, they might have found it earlier. But there are no good symptoms or signs of early-stage ovarian cancer. We were going to get married this summer, but her oncologist said to move it up, so we got married this past September. She died in December.”

No Job

A user commented, “My husband’s last marriage lasted about four months. She quit her job the day after they got married and then used the credit card to remodel her parents’ home. He gave her a month to get a job and left when the month was up. She tried various ways to get him back, even after we were already married with a child. She’s finally left him alone. She seems a bit unstable.”

Abuse

A popular comment was, “Dated a guy for 5 years. He was pretty emotionally abusive and screwed with my head a lot. Lots of stuff to destroy my self-esteem. Ended up in a car accident while planning our wedding, so in addition to the emotional abuse, I had a head injury clouding my judgment. The week before the wedding, I realized it was a mistake, and everyone told me it was cold feet. The marriage lasted a month. Moved out and have never looked back. Couldn’t be happier now :-).”

A second comment was, “He poked me in the chest the day after our wedding and said, “You’re going to do what I say whether you like it or not.” Game over.”

Jealousy

One Redditor replied, “Not me, but my dad got married, and everything seemed fine until he called my sister on her birthday. His new wife flipped out and said, “You can’t have any other women in your life.”

Too Young

One user responded, “Most of our problems came from getting married at 18 and not having a freaking idea what it meant to be married.”

Another user commented, “I got married young (19) and didn’t really get to know her very well. It felt like the right thing to do at the time, I guess. It took about three months before the crazy started. We were always arguing and couldn’t ever agree on anything.”

Another Family

A most-liked comment was, “On my aunt’s wedding day, she found out that her soon husband-to-be was already married and had a family. The wedding was called off on the day, and she’s never had a man in her life since. She is in her late 60s today.”

Baby Wasn’t Mine

One Redditor commented, “One of her equally sl**** friends [that I was never particularly nice to] said almost in passing that I should have a paternity test done. Things had mostly gone to hell by then, anyway… I had the test done, and it came back with 0 percent probability that the kid could be mine.”
Redditors sure had some interesting marriage-ending stories. Did your marriage end before a year? How did it end?

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