10 Red Flags of Insecurity: What to Watch Out For

We all have insecurities. When does it become an issue, and what are some signs you might not even notice you have?

What screams insecurity, but most people don’t realize it? After polling the internet, these are the top-voted responses.

1. Checking This Thread to See if You Do Any of These Things

The number one voted response was ironic, “Looking through these comments to see if there’s anything you do that is listed here is a sign of insecurity.”

2.  Can’t Take The Jokes You Dish

If someone can tease you and make fun of you all day but whines the minute you return their energy to them, that is a red flag. Not being able to take a joke similar to the ones you’ve been throwing around shows that you lack respect and are too insecure.

3.  Ridiculing the Achievements of Others

Someone explained, “I will never date someone who ridicules someone else’s achievements. They’re insecure if they can’t be happy for someone else.

Suppose they specifically put you down for your achievements compared to their own. In that case, that is a tactic for emotionally abusive people. Please don’t fall for it.”

4. Lie So Hard They Believe It Too

Some people twist the story, change how it happened, and retell it so convincingly that they’ll believe their nonsense and never apologize. These people will drive you insane and gaslight you to no end in a relationship.

One elaborated, “There was one man I was with who tore me down about everything I achieved to the point that I questioned my worth years later. Sadly, some people need that much power to feel good about themselves.”

5. Never Compromise

“If they don’t accept any input that doesn’t match what they think, that’s a sign of insecurity,” said one.

“An equal partnership means that both parties are respected for their opinion, and everything is considered. They are not mature enough for a real relationship if they don’t have enough emotional regulation to compromise.”

6. I Won’t Change Myself For You

Someone explained that if they ignore how you feel after you tell them and make no attempt to explain or help you feel better, that’s a red flag. Many men are immature emotionally and can’t fathom the thought that they are doing something wrong.

The standard answer is, “I won’t change myself for you.” Don’t ever take this in a relationship. If they can’t slightly improve their behavior to improve your life, that is not your person.

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7. Can’t Admit He’s Wrong

“If he can’t admit he’s wrong, that man is not the one for you. Some men will half listen to what they’re doing that bothers you but then tell you that it’s your problem to deal with,” one indicated. “The worst is when they do it more frequently to “make a point” that they won’t change their behavior for you.”

8. The Alpha Male

Another warned that if he repeatedly calls himself an “alpha male, ” he has more red flags than can be explained in only a few sentences.

Men like this tend to see themselves above others and become territorial around their girlfriends. Some women misconceive this as protective until they decide to stand up to their boyfriend and get “put in their place” with a fist.

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9. Pity Parties

One woman explained that some men are always negative and pitying themselves, which screams insecurity above anything else. However, life happens, and you need to deal with obstacles.

Life is too short to be with a man who doesn’t love himself and can’t properly love you because of it. Unfortunately, these relationships can be detrimental to women coerced into sticking around by the man.

10. Disrespect Around His Friends

Finally, a woman suggested that when a man’s demeanor changes if his friends are around, and he insults you to make himself seem cool, that is a major red flag. 

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That behavior shows that rather than defend you. That man will talk negatively about you to gain more respect from his friends. Not only is this a sign of insecurity, but it is also a sign that he has little-to-no respect for you.

What do you think? Did Reddit get this right, or is something significant missing from this list? This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Motherhood Life Balance.

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