She ‘Humiliated’ Her Friend to Make a Point, Was She in the Wrong?
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A Reddit user shared her story of “humiliating” her friend in front of a group to make a point about her culture.
The original poster (OP) explained that she hosted a dinner at her place a few weeks ago, and the topic of conversation turned to whether or not it is okay for parents to charge their adult children rent. OP is not American so she did not realize that this was a thing. She told her friends that in Brazil, this practice would be looked down upon and that she didn’t know a single person there who paid rent to their parents.
OP has three adult sisters who live at home rent-free. She finished her statement by saying that it was okay if her friends disagreed but that she would never charge her children rent if she wasn’t struggling financially. Another girl in the group said that “someone from a third-world country wouldn’t understand” and that her sisters should stop freeloading.
OP told her that it wasn’t like that at all, her parents love having her sisters around, and it’s common, if not expected, for children to live with their parents until they get married or find a life partner. The girl replied by saying that OP’s culture is “backward.” OP said she tried not to get offended over how she chose to word her statement and just said they could “agree to disagree.”
OP recently hosted another dinner more recently and announced to her friends that her older sister got engaged. The same girl asked if OP’s sister was “finally going to grow up” or if “mommy and daddy will pay for her rent elsewhere.” OP said she was sick of the girl’s snide comments and that this topic wasn’t the first time the girl had made these side comments.
OP told her that her sister is buying her own condo with her soon-to-be husband and that maybe the girl would be able to do the same soon if her parents didn’t charge her $1,000 plus utilities every month. A fight ensued, and the dinner was cut short. Some of OP’s friends think she should apologize, but OP doesn’t think she should.
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The Masses Weigh In
The Reddit community was quick to take OP’s side on this one.
One user said that the girl is the one who owes OP an apology. “I don’t understand how your friends are split about this? NTA, clearly. Amy was being insulting and rude, and she’s the one who owes an apology to you.”
Another user put a humorous spin on the situation:
“‘Amy replied by saying that my culture is backwards”
She seems nice.
“Amy proceeds to ask if she’s finally going to grow up now, or if mommy and daddy will pay rent for her elsewhere.”
She lived up to my expectations
No you should absolutely NOT apologize to Amy, she is unpleasant at best in my book. NTA.”
Was OP right to call out her friend? Should she apologize for what she said? How would you have reacted in this situation?
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