10 Things Older Women Admitted Worry Them About Younger Ladies

After someone asked, “Older women of Reddit, what’s something you notice younger girls do that worries you?” These were the top-voted concerns and responses.

1. Cosmetic Surgeries

One person shared, “The social attitude towards surgery has dramatically changed since I was a teenager. For example, when I was in high school (wealthy/upper-middle-class school), a girl returned from vacation with many obvious surgeries. She was laughed at because it was so out of the norm to show up with a new nose, lips, chin, and breasts.”

“In college, some girls had nose jobs. Still, even among well-off people, it wasn’t seen as some default and wasn’t necessary for young women. Instead, it was something older women did. Now, we view it in the same category as putting on makeup, getting your hair done, or some simple thing to do to conform to trends.”

“Society sees it as a feminine rite of passage every “big girl” should be entitled to do. However, suppose you need more money to afford the good stuff. In that case, it’s socially acceptable to find a cheaper alternative by getting basement fillers in your lips because we view it the same as choosing an eyeshadow.”

” It’s not ok that society sells this as normal and empowering. Women and girls are dying in agony, or permanently destroying their looks, for a chance to look trendy for a few years and outdated and weird for the rest of their lives.”

2. Makeup on Young Girls

“I’m old enough to worry immensely about the fact that girls are wearing full faces of makeup at eight and daily. I fear that dating starts younger and younger, too,” one replied.

“My mom would force me to wear makeup starting at age nine. She convinced me that it was the only way I would look pretty. She even went as far as making me put mascara on one eye, compare it to my natural eye, and say, ‘See how prettier the eye with mascara is?’ She messed up my self-esteem, which I still struggle with today.”

 3. Social Media Influence

“I have an 11-year-old, and girls have been wearing makeup, shaving, and doing videos for social media for a while now. She doesn’t do any of that and has been made fun of for it,” one mom shared.

“I asked her if she would want some mascara or to start shaving her legs, and she said, ‘No, that’s too much work.’ She’s the type to get annoyed by ads that tell women ‘how to get a snatched waist.’ So I don’t allow her to have social media; luckily, she has yet to ask.”

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4. Sending Risque Photos

“I’m a former teacher,” announced one. “A few years ago, a middle school girl sent a photo to a boy. He passed it around to his friends. Once we found out about the picture, the counselors had difficulty comforting the girl because she was upset and explaining the severity of her actions.”

“They also tried to explain how dangerous it is. The boy got in a lot of trouble but being impulsive, plus teenage hormones, make for bad decisions.”

5. Vaping 

“The other day, I was at a bus stop seeing young girls around 14 and 15 vaping in their school uniform. They had full faces of makeup, their uniform skirts hitched up, holding their school bags like a handbag and puffing away on colorful vapes like cigarettes. It was so sad to see,” another expressed.

6. Clothing Designs

“I’m not saying it’s their fault because they don’t design the clothes,” one replied. “But, still, it seems like little girls under ten are wearing clothes (and sometimes makeup) that make them look like teenagers, and the teenagers look like twenty-somethings.”

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7. Acrylic Nails

One teacher admitted, “One of my fourth graders often has long acrylic nails. They annoy me because her nails are a fidget toy I can’t take away. I know fake nails are no reason to clutch your pearls, but it takes her five minutes to pick her pencil up.”

8. Diet Culture 

“I always worry about the societal obsession with dieting and bodies. I have so much trauma around diet culture. Growing up in the 90s and 2000s was a nightmare seeing how society views the right and wrong body and people calling women fat on TV and in magazines,” confessed one.

“Crash diets were coming out frequently. My mom was and still is heavy into diet culture, and growing up with her commenting on my food and body all the time messed me up.”

“At 32, I can filter things out and see what’s ridiculous, but as a teenager, it’s a lot harder. I worry for girls and wish they didn’t have to see all the negativity like many women and I did during our formative years.”

9. Regular Wellness Checks

One user replied, “Younger women need to have regular check-ups, and they need to be aware of their bodies changing so they can go and seek help. So many younger women say, ‘Oh, I don’t need to go because I have no problems.’ However, every woman needs regular check-ups even if you have no complaints.”

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10. Casual Relationships

“When you grow up, you realize what an intensely intimate, deep, and powerful experience relationships can be with someone you trust. It’s formative. Casual relationships can feel good, but it’s a shallow, hollow imitation of slow, true, shared lovemaking,” one suggested.

” I was impatient to be with someone and had a series of monotonous casual relationships before I found my partner. I used to think being wanted for adult relations meant I was cared for or valued. It doesn’t. I regret my naivety.”

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“I’d trade all of it for one kind, patient, curious, generous soul that cared about me and wanted to explore what real intimacy and connection can be. Now, casual relationships feel like cheap wine or scratching an itch.”

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