Hard Truths: Things People Just Can’t Get Themselves To Tell Their Families

Families are easily one of the hardest parts of life to navigate. Especially when you are in a relationship and a new family is now brought into the picture. As we age, we learn about secrets that were kept by family members, and we also begin to reflect on the way we grew up. Many times due to secrets and reflection on our youth, relationships become strained, and communication becomes difficult. As a result of this, we may begin to hide things that we don’t want our family to know for fear of retaliation or fear that the truth may hurt them. 

A Redditor asked the internet, “What is something you don’t have the heart to tell your family?” the thread was a fascinating read that produced many fascinating answers. We’ve compiled a few of the best ones below.

Constant Negativity

One Redditor stated, “I’m getting annoyed by all the negativity they keep spreading. It feels like they don’t even want to be happy!”

Respect

A Redditor said, “That, I’ve lost all respect for my Dad.” 

Another Redditor replied, “I can’t respect half my family because of their social and political views.” 

Holidays

A user candidly said, “I’m starting to get sick of the family gatherings around Christmas time, and I’m seriously thinking about just taking a vacation around the holidays to Florida.”

A Redditor shared, “How much I truly loathe Christmas since my fiancé died and how I’d really rather not celebrate. It would really hurt them.”

In-Laws

A Redditor stated, “My wife hates my parents.”

A second Redditor added, “I don’t enjoy spending time with my in-laws and wish they would never visit.” 

Being Argumentative

This user said, “My in-laws would claim black is white just to start an argument, and I can no longer tolerate their argumentative ways.”

A Little Too Warm

A user said, “My parent’s house is about 4-5 degrees too warm. Makes it just a tad uncomfortable.”

A second user added, “My in-laws refuse to open windows or turn their AC on in the summer because of allergies, and I want to kill them.”

Alcohol Use

A Redditor shared, “I still drink too much.”

Another Redditor replied, “I got a DWI in the past year.”

Being Blocked

This user divulged, “How many of them I have blocked on social media.”

A second user added, “I sometimes block my mom’s number, so I don’t have to answer her when I’m not in the mood.” 

Unsanitary Conditions

A Redditor shared, “My grandma’s bedroom smells terribly of urine.”

Financial Debt

This user said, “The amount of my student loan debt. My mother would faint.”

Unsupportive

Another user shared, “I had been going to a therapist and psychiatrist because of my family’s constant discouragement of my career aspirations. I had other reasons to see a therapist, but this made me seek help.”

Bullying

This Redditor said, “The reason I stay in my room so much is to escape them. Whenever I am not in my room or out of the house, they insult me.”

Can’t Cook

This user shared, “Well, mine is, uh, less impactful than what’s already on here, but…they’re all terrible cooks. Like don’t even understand fundamental cooking techniques, it’s a miracle they haven’t given each other food poisoning multiple times.”

Makes No Effort

One Redditor shared, “The reason I hardly visit anymore is because there is no effort. I take 2 flights across 3 states, rent a car, spend a decent amount of coin, and get to my folk’s house to find that they haven’t even made the bed in the spare room, cleaned it up, or taken some time off work.”

Abusive Behavior

This Redditor commented, “The way they raised me was abusive, and it seriously damaged me as a person. My parents think they were great parents, especially my mom, who was the more abusive one.”

Father Time

This user shared, “You’re getting really old, and I’m not ready to lose either of you. My dad will be 76 in a few months, and I dread him not being there for me.”

Marital Issues

Another commenter said, “To my younger brother. Get a fu**ing divorce, bro.”

Never Quit

This user shared, “My grandfather lied about quitting smoking.”

Infidelities

A Redditor said, “I know you cheated on my mom.”

Fading Away

Finally, A Redditor said, “I’m so exhausted 24/7 that I just want to sleep and fade away. I’m still battling depression every day, but I’m “functional” because I’m still able to get up and work, and I’m not suicidal. I’m just constantly overwhelmed, and so fu**ing tired.”
Sometimes we just don’t have the heart to tell our families the hard truths. These Redditors sure are having a hard time.

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