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What is something that significantly changed in your life after becoming a mother? I’ll go first. My threshold for pain!
Suddenly, something that would have been a bigger deal pain-wise is no longer that same big deal. Here are ten other things women confessed changed after becoming mothers.
1. My Body
Someone shared, “Growing up, I was always thin or underweight. During my pregnancy, my hormones shifted, and my metabolism never recovered.
I had to get used to stretch marks and fat-stored places I didn’t typically have fat stored. It put me in a state of postpartum depression and took a lot of time to get used to,” they continued.
“I also, unfortunately, pee every time I sneeze, which has taken some serious adjustment. It is embarrassing, and you don’t realize how common it is until you finally bring it up to someone.”
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2. My Friendships
“I learned who my real friends were when I got pregnant,” replied another. “I never realized motherhood meant nearly all of your support systems abandoned you.”
“That realization was incredibly difficult for me. I had three friends stick around who I knew would be there if I called, but too many decided I wasn’t worth the time when I became a mother.
3. My Marriage
One mother confessed, “I didn’t realize how much of a strain having a child is on your marriage. I got married first in my twenties to a man who was super-dad for the first three months of our baby’s life.
He made sure I was healthy and had time to recover in those three months, so he took on a lot of responsibility for the baby and cut his hours on work, which he could complete virtually. It was great.
After that three-month mark hit, he must have burnt himself out, and he resented me for not doing enough with the baby for him to get some sleep, even though he insisted. So having a baby complicates your marriage.”
4. My Identity
“Motherhood overtook my life as my most significant identity,” one shared. “Everything changed to suit being a mother, and I changed into the mother I wanted to be.”
“I may have lost some hobbies, but I gained a community of others through social media who understand my daily struggles. In addition, I love being a mom.”
5. My Love of Life
Another mother admitted, “I didn’t love my life until I became a mother. It was the little things, the first smile, the first giggle, the first time they squeezed your finger. My babies made me realize why life is so important, and it’s because you love the people in your life.”
6. My Relationship With My Mother
“My relationship with my mother deepened when I had a child,” confessed another. “She became my mentor and has always been my role model for motherhood.
I was lucky enough to have a wonderful childhood because my parents were sure to care for us and listen to our needs. They spoke to us like adults from a young age and taught us independence. So when I became a mother, my mom became my best friend and a dependable ally.”
7. My Love For My Husband
“My love for my husband deepened after I pulled myself out of postpartum depression. My husband stepped up, cared for the baby and me, and kept the house clean. I have never felt so loved and cared for,” admitted one. “He is the only reason I am still here today.”
8. My Outlook On Life
Someone explained, “My outlook on life changed when I became a mother. Because of my trauma, I didn’t think I was worth much and didn’t care what happened to me.
However, the first time I laid eyes on my baby, I knew I needed to be there for her and protect her no matter what. I started making better decisions and removed toxicity from my life.”
9. My Health
“I changed my health completely when I became a mother,” shared one. “Coming from a traumatic past, I was never taught dietary control and portion size, so making that shift seemed too hard. That is until I learned I had a life inside of me that was at risk.”
My pregnancy was a roller coaster, but my fiancé helped me learn to cope with the change and ultimately change my eating habits for the better.
During the pregnancy, I healthily lost almost fifty pounds under the close supervision of my midwife. Since then, I have lost thirty pounds more and gone to the gym weekly.”
10. My Parents’ Relationship
A final mom replied, “Becoming a mother changed the relationship between my parents. When I was 19, my parents were about to divorce. They argued a lot and didn’t care for each other as they used to.
At 20, they were signing the paperwork until I told them my fiancé and I was pregnant. They were both so excited to be grandparents. My father moved back to my childhood home with my mother when I had my baby girl.
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I was visiting every other night for dinner, so my daughter got to know both her grandparents together. Then, two years ago, they renewed their vows on their 35th wedding anniversary.” Is anyone else’s eyes teared up with this one?
We hope you enjoyed this Reddit discussion about things women admitted changed after becoming mothers. What changed for you? This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Motherhood Life Balance.
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