She Told Her Sister She Could Use Her Vacation House, Then Decided Last Minute She Wanted a Vactaion Instead and Told her Sister She Couldn’t Come
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The original poster (OP) recently asked Reddit if she was in the wrong by refusing to let her sister and her sister’s family stay at their vacation house after saying yes six months ago because OP and her family decided they wanted to take a last-minute vacation and didn’t want to be cramped in the house.
The Vacation Home Issue
OP’s sister and her family (husband and two kids) had planned a vacation to OP’s beach house six months ago, and they had their flights booked and everything. A week before their trip, OP and her husband decided that they wanted to take a last-minute vacation to the house.
OP let her sister know she was upset and asked if they could still come anyway and all just squeezed into the house together. OP refused and told her that they had already paid for the trip and didn’t want to share the house with her and her family.
OP also mentioned that she and her sister have a bit of a complicated relationship. They’re sisters but have never been particularly close, and they’ve had their fair share of arguments/disagreements over the years. Recently, OP and her husband lent her sister a large sum of money to help them out of a financial crisis.
The sister and her husband promised to pay OP and her husband back within a year, but it’s been over 18 months, and they’ve yet to see a dime.
OP has brought this up to her sister a few times, but she always brushes it off and changes the subject. So, when she asked to stay at their vacation home, OP felt a little resentful.
OP said she knew it sounded terrible, but she didn’t want to spend their hard-earned vacation time with someone who had taken advantage of their kindness. She also didn’t want to risk her sister’s family damaging their property as it has happened before.
Reddit Weighs In
Redditors were quick to give their opinions on this sister situation.
One Redditor said, “Yup. Smacks of “I don’t think they should be going on holidays while they owe us money, so I’m going to teach them a lesson by ruining their holiday at the last minute”.
Why would you say yes in the first place (if it is theirs alone and not a family house) instead of saying that they aren’t comfortable with them staying in their property until a payment plan is started and adhered to.”
A second Redditor said, “I get being mad they have money for a vacation but not to repay a debt. That’s valid. But why would you let her spend the money just to waste it? AT MOST, she’ll get credit for her next flight – that money is gone. Instead of in OP’s pocket, where it could be if OP had used her words.”
A third Redditor shared, “Yeah, this was completely intentional. She didn’t even try to come up with some excuse as to why they just had to use their vacation house at the time her sister had arranged to use it. Absolutely unacceptable.”
Finally, a Redditor shared, “If you let her plan a trip and then refused to let her come one week before, you are a major asshole. If you don’t want her using your vacation home, then don’t let her plan a trip to it. It’s your home; you don’t owe her a free vacation home. What makes you the asshole is giving her permission to use the home and then reneging one week prior to her leaving.”
So, Redditors obviously had strong opinions on this topic; what is your opinion? Was the OP in the wrong for telling her sister she had to cancel her vacation?
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