10 Gaslighting Phrases Narcissists Use To Manipulate You

Being with a narcissist is an emotionally taxing and toxic experience. Several people gave examples of gaslighting phrases they endured in their relationships to serve as a warning for others.

Here are the top-voted examples.

You’re Being Negative Again. Here We Go With You Ruining My Day.

One explained that they were in a relationship with a narcissist. Whenever she brought up something that bothered her to hold him accountable, he would reply, “You’re being negative again. Here we go with you ruining my day.”

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Oh, but It’s Perfectly Okay When You Do It?

Another explained that after her partner resorted to deliberating and maliciously attempting to hurt her (e.g., silent treatment, boundary violations, blame-shifting, playing devil’s advocate), he replied, “Oh, but it’s perfectly okay when you do it?”

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Spaghetti pie

“Look at you crying and playing the victim,” another volunteered. She elaborated that was his response after his verbal abuse and yelling that resulted in her tears.

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Look at You Crying and Playing the Victim

You Have a Twisted Way of Remembering Things

“You have a twisted way of remembering things,” shared one. “Uh, no. I remember the facts, and you have a version that doesn’t make you look like as much of a jerk as you were.” A second agreed, “Same here.

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