10 Surprising Phrases Your Partner Is Using to Gaslight You

The word “gaslighting” is thrown around a lot these days. The purpose of gaslighting is to make someone believe they are crazy when in reality, they are not.

Gaslighting is a sneaky manipulation tactic, but there are some key phrases you can look for to determine if your partner is really trying to gaslight you.

“That Never Happened”

One covert way your partner may try to manipulate you is to make you question your own reality and memory. This phrase is used to downplay your experience and feelings. If you know it happened, don’t let them convince you otherwise.


“You’re Always So Dramatic”

People who gaslight others always deal in absolutes. You will often hear terms such as “always” or “never” when they are attempting to minimize your feelings. You likely aren’t being as dramatic as they are making it seem like.


Spaghetti pie

This phrase is used to alienate you from the people in your life and lower your sense of self-worth. The goal of language like this is to make you more dependent on the gaslighter.


“This Is Why No One Likes You”

“You Can Never Take a Joke”

When gaslighters say something hurtful and you react accordingly, they will often try to play it off and make it seem like you’re ridiculous for getting hurt over something that was ‘clearly a joke.” Don’t fall for this tactic, they don’t get to dictate what does and doesn’t hurt you.


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