Prioritizing Family or Sticking to Schedules? The 6 Difficult Choices of a Grandmother

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It’s a common expectation for parents to eagerly anticipate becoming grandparents and enjoy the fun aspects of spending time with their grandchildren.

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Baby is Born

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Christmas Dinner

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Just Not Working Out

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Has She Tried Enough?

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The Masses Weigh In

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Prioritizing Family or Sticking to Schedules? The 6 Difficult Choices of a Grandmother

It’s a common expectation for parents to eagerly anticipate becoming grandparents and enjoy the fun aspects of spending time with their grandchildren.

Baby is Born

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Christmas Dinner

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Just Not Working Out

No one in the family visited them. OP feels like she’s done her part to see the baby with the holiday dinner; however, it just didn’t work out.

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Has She Tried Enough?

OP says she tries to video chat with her kids and grandchildren once every few months, but her son has made it clear in the past when they haven’t heard from her in over 8 months that she needed to make more of an effort.

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The Masses Weigh In

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