Being a parent brings along many issues when trying to do right by their child and teaching them important life lessons. This is more compounded when you are the step-parent of someone else’s child.
You certainly don’t want to overstep your role, but at the same time would like to instill the good habits in your new son or daughter that you are trying to teach your biological children as well. A stepmother recently found herself in a conflict with her step-daughter’s mother over how she asked her what type of dessert she’d like for her birthday.
The original poster (OP) begins her story by saying that she has two boys, ages 8 and 10, from a previous relationship and that her husband also has a child, a girl age 6, from a previous relationship as well.
The stepmother and her husband work together to teach their children moderation with everything from food to technology and strive to teach their children that being active is an important part of health and try to get their kids moving and doing something active every day.
However, her husband’s daughter spends the majority of her time with her mother, and they only see her two weekends a month. The husband’s daughter is twice the weight of the average 6-year-old, and her mother is the polar opposite of the way they’re raising their boys.
They have her sons play with her so she’s being active when she’s there, and they actively make a distinction between foods that are healthy and ones that are not with her.
The stepmother says her stepdaughter’s lifestyle makes her feel sad for her and her health, so when they spend time with her, and she tries to teach her about healthy eating and being active.